Everyone’s Got Issues
Each of us has some secrets that we would never reveal. And all of us have things about ourselves that make us a little uncomfortable. It may be something as simple as feeling that we aren’t tall enough or beautiful enough, or it may even be something such as a learning disorder or a physical blemish that perhaps keeps us a little bit more introverted and not so keen on interacting freely with others. But guess what? Everyone’s got issues, even the folks who look like they have it all together. That includes celebrities – why do you think they do things at times that seem to scream, “I feel so lost inside!”
Developing Your Talents
There are several things that can be done to make us feel more comfortable with who we are. One of them is to develop a talent. There is something that you are better at than anyone else in the whole world! Don’t believe it? Maybe you have yet to discover it, but it’s part of the reason you are a unique individual. It’s your mission to figure out what you do best, and integrate that into your life to not only make you feel better about who you are, but to also enhance the lives of others around you.
Lend a Helping Hand
Another thing that can be done to get you feeling more empowered, useful, and important is to find somebody to help. It is in losing yourself in the service of others that you find out more about yourself and feel needed and important. You become a part of community.
From Nerd to King
Have you ever witnessed a transformation of a “nerd” to somebody that everyone likes? How does that happen? It isn’t so much that the “nerd” changed who he or she is, but more so had a coming out, or a revealing of an awesome personality that was always there to begin with. It’s the sharing of that personality that was the game changer.
Revealing Who You Are
Besides developing your talents, and reaching out and being a help to others, there are some things you can do that are a little whacky, but can go a long way to boosting your confidence in yourself. This doesn’t take a whole lot actually to figure out. Just like everyone has issues, everyone’s weird, too. This doesn’t mean that you are somehow unlovable or unworthy, in fact it’s just the opposite. Your quirkiness is part of what sets you apart and what makes you unique and different. It’s just that most of the time you have been unwilling to express your uniqueness for fear of what everyone else might think.
Practice With Your Wild Side
Have you ever done Karaoke? Or are you always the one to sit back and watch and listen while the less inhibited perform for the audience? Are you sitting there thinking how weird the person sounds who’s singing, and how awful they are coming across? Probably not! (unless the person is intending to get that reaction on purpose). Nobody is going to think you’re strange for doing it either, so get involved. It can be fun!
Have you ever volunteered for anything in a crowd? Perhaps you’ve attended a magic show where the magician asked for volunteers. Next time be the first to raise your hand. Surprise yourself. Come away from the event feeling like you conquered one of your fears!
Have you ever done a trick off the diving board at the swimming pool? Jump off the diving board and cross your legs Indian style and fold your arms like a genie, hitting the water and making a huge splash. Watch the preteens and younger crowd mimic you after that, and feel proud of yourself for being a little bit silly.
Ever done something really embarrassing on accident in a group of people? Who gets more uncomfortable, you or the people looking on? Interestingly, if you get noticeably uncomfortable, the group gets uncomfortable for you, which makes you even more uncomfortable, which makes them even more uncomfortable… Next time you find yourself in such a situation pretend that it was no big deal, or laugh out loud, and watch what happens – people will become a mirror of you. It’s because of our built-in empathy. They feel what you do!
Now here’s the real kicker – ever woke up with bed head? Sure you have, but you probably didn’t want to share it with anyone. This time relish it! Take a pic of your bed head and email it to someone just for kicks and giggles.
People will be able to tell that you’re feeling a little bit more comfortable in your own skin. And they’ll be silently cheering you on!
Nedra Batey loves to see personal development, and watches with awe and inspiration as people peel back the layers of their personality to reveal their true selves. She encourages bed head sharing at OwnYourBedHead.com
Developing Your Talents
There are several things that can be done to make us feel more comfortable with who we are. One of them is to develop a talent. There is something that you are better at than anyone else in the whole world! Don’t believe it? Maybe you have yet to discover it, but it’s part of the reason you are a unique individual. It’s your mission to figure out what you do best, and integrate that into your life to not only make you feel better about who you are, but to also enhance the lives of others around you.
Lend a Helping Hand
Another thing that can be done to get you feeling more empowered, useful, and important is to find somebody to help. It is in losing yourself in the service of others that you find out more about yourself and feel needed and important. You become a part of community.
From Nerd to King
Have you ever witnessed a transformation of a “nerd” to somebody that everyone likes? How does that happen? It isn’t so much that the “nerd” changed who he or she is, but more so had a coming out, or a revealing of an awesome personality that was always there to begin with. It’s the sharing of that personality that was the game changer.
Revealing Who You Are
Besides developing your talents, and reaching out and being a help to others, there are some things you can do that are a little whacky, but can go a long way to boosting your confidence in yourself. This doesn’t take a whole lot actually to figure out. Just like everyone has issues, everyone’s weird, too. This doesn’t mean that you are somehow unlovable or unworthy, in fact it’s just the opposite. Your quirkiness is part of what sets you apart and what makes you unique and different. It’s just that most of the time you have been unwilling to express your uniqueness for fear of what everyone else might think.
Practice With Your Wild Side
Have you ever done Karaoke? Or are you always the one to sit back and watch and listen while the less inhibited perform for the audience? Are you sitting there thinking how weird the person sounds who’s singing, and how awful they are coming across? Probably not! (unless the person is intending to get that reaction on purpose). Nobody is going to think you’re strange for doing it either, so get involved. It can be fun!
Have you ever volunteered for anything in a crowd? Perhaps you’ve attended a magic show where the magician asked for volunteers. Next time be the first to raise your hand. Surprise yourself. Come away from the event feeling like you conquered one of your fears!
Have you ever done a trick off the diving board at the swimming pool? Jump off the diving board and cross your legs Indian style and fold your arms like a genie, hitting the water and making a huge splash. Watch the preteens and younger crowd mimic you after that, and feel proud of yourself for being a little bit silly.
Ever done something really embarrassing on accident in a group of people? Who gets more uncomfortable, you or the people looking on? Interestingly, if you get noticeably uncomfortable, the group gets uncomfortable for you, which makes you even more uncomfortable, which makes them even more uncomfortable… Next time you find yourself in such a situation pretend that it was no big deal, or laugh out loud, and watch what happens – people will become a mirror of you. It’s because of our built-in empathy. They feel what you do!
Now here’s the real kicker – ever woke up with bed head? Sure you have, but you probably didn’t want to share it with anyone. This time relish it! Take a pic of your bed head and email it to someone just for kicks and giggles.
People will be able to tell that you’re feeling a little bit more comfortable in your own skin. And they’ll be silently cheering you on!
Nedra Batey loves to see personal development, and watches with awe and inspiration as people peel back the layers of their personality to reveal their true selves. She encourages bed head sharing at OwnYourBedHead.com
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