Where To Meet
Perhaps one of the most difficult decisions to make is where to meet for a first date. Always try to choose somewhere public and although bars are popular, it can be worth checking out first, as one that is too noisy or crowded will make chatting very difficult. Some singles meet for a meal, although this can make a first date uncomfortable if conversation halts during the starter. For those who do decide to eat on the first date, avoid messy foods such as spaghetti, greasy chicken wings or ribs.
Generally, shorter first dates are more comfortable, particularly if it does not work out, however, there is also the opportunity to lengthen the date if everything is going very well. As with any date, always make sure a friend knows whom the date is with and where the date will be.
What To Talk About
Some people find it helpful to decide on a few conversation topics before the first date, so that if conversation stops, it is easy to start a new topic. Avoid raising emotional topics and any discussions around ex-partners. If a date does ask a direct question about an ex-relationship, then do be honest. Some gentle humour can also help relax a date, maybe talk about something funny that may have happened at work recently. Some singles, such as Latin women, may also admit that they do feel a little nervous on a first date and the chances are that the person they are dating may also admit to feeling the same way. Always try to spend as much time listening as talking and of course, always remember good manners. Good manners also include turning phones off and not sending messages halfway through the date.
Paying bills on a first date can sometimes be a little awkward. As a rule, men tend to pick up a bill, but a woman should always offer. If there is any uncertainty, or even reluctance to pick up a bill, just gracefully offer to split.
Do spend some extra time on appearance before the first date, but also make sure that the outfit is appropriate for the type of date. Dressing formally for an afternoon coffee will not only look out of place but will also cause feelings of discomfort. Avoid having too much alcohol. If meeting in a bar, just have one or two alcoholic drinks, drink them slowly and then switch to soft drinks. Avoid lies or exaggerations on a first date and if first impressions are not great, then try to reconsider, as first impressions are sometimes misleading.
Finally, remember to make the most of a first date and try to enjoy it. Even if the first date does not work out romantically, it is still nice to be able to say that it was an enjoyable occasion.
Tim Scott regularly contributes articles to dating websites. Tim also guest blogs about latin women on a number of international dating blogs.